~Kayleigh and Shawn~
10% of Americans suffer from infertility.
Shawn and I never thought that we'd have to
try so hard for something that should
come so natural to us.
..High School Sweethearts..
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| 2007/2013 |
We met in high school when I was 15 years old, and he was 17. He knew right away that I was his other half, and I honestly didnt know till a year later. We were the typical drama ridden teenagers but we grew up together. We went from children worrying about grades to adults worrying about bills and making our family. Being the amazing person he is, he graduated high school, and shortly after enlisted in the Army Reserves. He wanted to make sure when I graduated high school we would be set. We dreamed of a home of our own and children to follow. Shawns training went on for about 8 months before I got to have him home for good. About two months after my 18th birthday we moved out on our own and was sure our plan would begin.
So we figured we just needed to not think about it so until I was 20 years old we stopped thinking about it and lived life. Numerous jobs, homes, and cars later we finally saw a doctor. The doctors face was hilarious when we told her how young we were, how long we've had unprotected sex, and still no children. She instantly recommended we see an OBGYN and get a general check up. So we luckily a few weeks later had really awesome health benefits kick in from the new job we had gotten a couple months prior. The day the benefits began Shawn took me to the OBGYN and the physical went south fast.
..Longest day of my life..
On March 8th, 2013 we saw one of the best OBGYNs in our town. That day the doctor started to "feel around" and in less then 10 seconds I flinched and yelped "ouch". Shawn was there holding my hand as the doctor kept pushing the spot that was hurting me. I mean there were times during intercourse I would have pains after, but I felt like that was normal. Apparently I was wrong, and now I feel like a fool for not seeing a doctor sooner. After my exam the doctor told us to come back that day for an emergency ultrasound to see what was causing me so much pain. At 2pm we came back and were rushed ahead of other women. They located a "complex cyst" the size of my palm that had pretty much consumes my right ovary.
..March 13th,2013 I was rushed to surgery..
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| Right Before My Operation |
They kept calling my cyst complex, and my surgery exploratory. Let me just say I felt so uncomfortable, lost, and like it was all my fault we still had no babies. When doctors throw around words like that it doesn't make your preparation for surgery, or recovery any easier. Before my surgery my husband, father, and grandparents were told I was going in for a biopsy. We were informed it would be 2-3 hours max for surgery. You can imagine they were quite worried when I didn't come out till about 6-7 hours later. I came out of surgery with one ovary instead of two, and wasn't told until 3 days later during recovery at the hospital.
..Bumpy road to recovery..
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| My Lovely Husband Bought Me a Kindle While I Was Healing. |
You can imagine my shock, and pain when I found out later I had no say in what was done to my body. I realized half my eggs, half my chances for a family were gone. There was no bringing them back or reversing what I had done to my body to form such a disgusting thing. I instantly was taken from work for 6 weeks (was supposed to be 8 but I healed faster then expected). Shawn was my rock through it all and let me cry whenever I needed to. It was such an emotional roller coaster after surgery, that I was kinda glad I had that time off. Well the roller coaster never stopped there.
..False hope, time after time..
The doctor told us after this procedure most of his patients turned up pregnant within one year. Lets just say we still are not pregnant, and through the year we tried multiple remedies to help the process. I mean even the old myths your grandmas have told you! Well after another major move back to Florida we thought it'd be best to find a well known OBGYN. Then seeing a consultation was $150-$400 we decided that be too much, because that was not including a semen analysis or any check up done on me. I continued to search foods, herbs, and medication that may help up try on our own.
..Faith has been sort of restored..
My husband and I have always been the type of people that believe that what you give is what you get. Lately we are trying to truly live by that and see how much it can help. We have added something else to our spiritual path to see if maybe we can all together avoid spending that much just to speak to a doctor about what our steps would be with them. I searched many medications and the highest rated product I found was FertilAid for both Men and Women on Fairhaven Health. I continued my research and also found other vitamins/supplement that can help with boosting fertility.
..Changes are being made so fast..
..but didnt work..
Two years ago I can tell you honestly we woke up in a bad mood or sick 75% of the time.. But after taking it for a month my husband began to feel pain in his testicles. So we figured since the only thing new to our life was FertilAid we decided it'd be best to stop it till we saw a specialist.
*****Update 03/01/2015*****
So we went to the OBGYN 02/18/2015 and received a pap and Ultrasound. I was ready for bad news.. well nope I was told my ovary that had been removed has already grown back. My new OB said she knew it could grow back, but had never seen it. On March 9th we see a well known US fertility specialists to get extensive work done. I will update further on out story then :)
*****Update 03/11/2015*****
Warning May be TMI:
Shawns semen analysis came back a 100% positive. The Dr said he wants to fix what he see's. He said I have too much mucus on my cervix.. which is causing a "hostile environment" for his swimmers. He put us on medication and wants us to baby dance the 22nd and come in early morning the 23rd. He wants to see if it cleared and where his swimmers go. The thing is he said that with thinking my period would start by the next day (yesterday). It still has not come. FX
*****Update 03/23/2015*****
We went in for the PK test today and it was determined we do need an IUI (Intrauterine Insemination) We do have healthy eggs and healthy sperm, it is just that my cervical mucus is hostile and kills off his semen before reaching my eggs. This procedure is estimated at $1100 but may be more. Also it is not guaranteed to take the first time. I happy and hurt all together. With moving this month its going to be a while before we can afford this lord knows how many times. FX
